Mike Hudack is a tumblelog.

While I’m disappointed

melissa:

mikehudack:

nickdouglas:

in the way two women have chosen to portray me (much more Melissa’s account of our sixth breakup than Chaya’s story, as I loved Melissa and we hurt each other deeply) I’ll let them speak for themselves. For my part, I won’t be dealing with this in public. We’ve seen what that can lead to: book deals.

Whatever may be said about Nick, this response indicates true character.  Good for you.

I’d argue it has little to do with character. It’s slinking away from the public eye that got him this attention in the first place when he knows he’s wrong. The problem with his behavior in relationships is the he acted much of it out in public — a sort of a public, his over-reliance on his online life to buoy an ego. And actually, all of us are at fault for that.

The last thing I want to do is get drawn into this.  I like and respect both of you, and I don’t want to pick sides, and don’t think I should have to.  

I was brought up to turn the other cheek in certain circumstances.  It’s often the hardest thing to do.  Turning the other cheek — especially in circumstances where criticism is coming fast and furious — takes strength.  Doubly so because the natural reaction to such withdrawal is an accusation of flight.

Regardless of the ultimate motivation, I respect Nick’s stand.